Using a software development method called pair programming as an example, I’ll explain why this relationship works.

In pair programming two people use a single computer or workstation in order to quickly create a higher quality of work. The second person looks over the first person’s work to identify potential strategic problems and insure the overall direction is the best. This enables the person at the computer keyboard to concentrate their skills on the software construction.

This technique is similar to a spotter and shooter in military sniper teams where both roles are of equal importance. Working together creates a focused outcome of higher quality than each would produce simply working side-by-side. Also, like sniper teams, the software developers frequently switch roles in order to focus on each other’s goals, sustaining momentum and enjoyment throughout the session.

After a short time, an accountability partner will notice patterns in your life. They’ll be able to identify things that work or don’t work in pursuit of your goals as they observe you facing your daily struggles. As a friend they can support and guide you by means of conversations where together you review and consider solutions to personal and professional challenges.

Also, it’s fun!

An online survey showed that 96% of programmers preferred working in pairs to working alone, and 95% of them felt more confident in the code they wrote. With someone constantly reviewing your work, you can rest assured that you haven’t made any major mistakes.

Eric Schwartz

A Study in Pair Programming,

If you imagine your goals as the “software”, you achieve the same high-quality results through collaboration by reviewing each other’s goals and progress each meeting. With two set of experiences and perspectives, you learn to negotiate a plan of action that you may not have created by yourself. Both partners will improve communication skills and be stimulated to thoroughly review unconscious beliefs. We’ve all had times when we say to ourselves, “I should have thought of that!”—moments we couldn’t see the forest because we were surrounded by the trees.